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Just Do Nothing:  

Have you ever spent 3 whole days sitting there uncomfortably bored on purpose ? 

I have. 

Why? 

I was told to. 

And I’d PAID to. 

Lemme explain… 

One of my mentors, who I had followed online for sometime , opened up some spaces on his in-person training program. 

It would consist of some online content, 6 days away training, weekly Zoom calls and the occasional 1-2-1 coaching call. 

All in, It cost me 8 grand. 

When he told me the price, I gulped a bit, got the card details ready and ponied up. 

The online…

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There's Value in Vulnerability  

Going for the vulnerability jugular on this one! 

I've had some amazing, heartfelt chats and some life-changing deep conversations and I know that a lot of us have had similar struggles. 

Being creative, having a business, feeling pressured, juggling many things in life and suffering (usually in silence) at the same time is bloody hard work. 

This morning I was going over the copy for a fellow coach's “about me” section on his website. 

He’d asked for some feedback and I was honoured and happy to help! 

I…

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Doing the "work" : Why I choose coaching over counselling.  

 

I used to think there was no such thing as “happy ever after” 

Not just in a relationship sense, but life in general. 

I realise now that I was selling myself, and others, short with this thinking. 

And I'd be doing clients a massive disservice as a people-helper. 

So I became a change-maker instead. 

I help people realise our strength to make these changes is INNATE. 

It’s not forged through adversity or coping with your struggles or learning to simply deal with daily dramas 

It’s about learning you have

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Has this ever happened to you?  

Did you know, every feeling can change your biochemistry!? 

I’ll give you a relevant and very recent example. 

Yesterday, I went to the funeral of a mates Mum. It was a small gathering and, while we were stood in this waiting room , my buddy took me over to his Dad so I could pay my respects and say hi. 

As he was re-introducing me to his Dad, who I’d not seen for a long time, he started to explain who I was so his Dad would remember me and I suddenly had a very visible, physical reaction! 

See, for some…

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On a Mission  

Like the majority of blokes struggling with Anxiety, I used to feel lonely, lost and disconnected from the human race and reality. 

BUT, unlike some people who just accept “that’s just how I am and I have to live with it” I absolutely refused to. I hate being labeled and wasn’t giving up without a fight! 

I’d suffered for years (Decades!) and spent a ton of money try to figure out how to be free from fear …and FAST! 

I’d spent thousands on therapy, counseling and every method out there as well as investing…

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Expertise or Experience?  

When I started playing guitar (many moons ago!) I remember my parents sent me to the local teacher… 

Well, it was convenient as he lived just down the road and was cheap…BUT he wasn’t too interested in what I wanted to learn… Plus I was about 14 at the time with the attention span of goldfish. 

So eventually we splurged a bit more money on weekly lessons with a guy who was kinda considered the Guitar GURU of the whole county! 

Now this guy could REALLY play! He was flashy and fast AF! Playing all the speedy…

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Remember that app from last year? 

 

Faceapp? The one that made you look 20 years older? 

I’ve posted at the time but I wanna say again.... 

I totally look like a old BAMF right here haha! 

Seriously though. I don’t wanna look back in 20 years and regret all those thing I DIDN’T do... 

Because of possible embarrassment, fear or potential FAILURE! 

Fuck that... 

Whatever you’re putting off...don’t. 

Life is short. 

Get unstuck...TODAY! 

Imagine yourself in 20 years time... 

What will life look like for you if you don’t take action NOW?!

Protect yourself at all times. Let’s have a good, clean fight.  

Life is a contact sport..and sometimes feels like a COMBAT sport! 

One great bit of wisdom passed to me was this: 

“Anything you’re doing in life that you’re passionate about and that you care about and is worth doing well will be difficult at times… 

Going into any potentially stressful situations, whether it’s work, our own businesses, those difficult relationships or sometimes just day to day dealings with people can feel like steeping into a boxing ring or cage…sometimes it’ll go your way and people…

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“To forget is to forgive”  

I thought I’d heard that wrong the first time... 

I thought it was “to forget is to forgive” 

It’s much easier than you think... 

You can’t stop thoughts popping into your head about that person, what they did, what they said... 

But you CAN choose to forget. Let it go. Don’t dwell on those thoughts and give any power over you. 

You’re the only one suffering by continuing that internal tug of war. 

That person that wronged you has probably moved on long ago. 

Life’s too fucking short. Let it go. You don’t…

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What does your Time Machine look like?  

Y’know the one? It’s a built in part of that 600 billion dollar computer you’ve got between your ears (and, as my friend Simon says - “no one gave you the manual for it!”) 

This time machine doesn’t use plutonium though, it runs off of Free Will. A gift we can use as fuel to time travel in our minds to a scary future of 

pain, loss, suffering, financial ruin or even death... 

Or we jump back in time to relive those painful memories and experiences. 

The truth is...neither is real. The past and future do not…

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There is no fate but what we make…  

I’ve nicked that  from Terminator 2: Judgement Day. One of my favourite films. 

And one of my favourite quotes! 

I truly believe that there is no fate but what we make for ourselves. 

If I’d listened to what certain other people in my life TOLD me I’d be: 

- a worthless individual 

- in prison 

- dead 

- penniless/homeless 

If I’d listened to those who told me I’d be: 

- on medication forever 

- unable to exercise again 

- permanently damaged goods 

If I’d listened to those people, teachers, doctors…

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How helpful is your habitual overthinking!?  

Not that helpful if I had to guess. 

In fact, overthinking and being locked in negative thought patterns are about as much use to you as a glass hammer. 

Or an inflatable dartboard... 

Chocolate fireguard! 

(Whatever’s your best “as useful as” joke!) 

...or as helpful to you as a concrete parachute...as you spiral outta control! 

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to be doing a deeper dive on the most common thinking habits, how to identify them and how to handle them once and for all! 

Imagine what you…

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Don't think - DO.  

10 years ago, I made the decision to quit my full-time, well-paying, safe and secure job to go it alone as a guitar teacher. 

Almost 3 years ago I was the same when I started coaching…. 

Truth is, I had been putting off making that jump for many years. 

Scared of the unknown. Lacking confidence and self-belief. 

Sitting on it just leads to more doubting and fears. 

Fuck waiting around for some kind of inspiration or someone else to motivate you…that’s bullshit. 

SELF confidence and SELF esteem come from…

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How many thoughts do you think you have every day?   

Over the years when I’ve asked clients this question, their answers have ranged from 15 (!?) to a few hundred. 

Not. Even. Close. 

Your “normal” person has 60-90,000. 

Woah! 

Now, if someone is super- stressed, over-thinking, anxious or depressed, well… double those numbers and you’re closer to how many thoughts they have. 

A lot of them “negative” too I’m guessing. 

Imagine trying to track, analyse, label and filter all those thoughts. 

Sounds bloody exhausting right!? 

It is. 

But a lot of us do it! 

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It's never too early to have hope.  

Just after I get done writing this, I'm gonna help put up our Christmas decorations. 

Is it too early? 

I don’t reckon. 

I went for a late run a couple of weeks ago and it was dark. 

I saw 5-6 houses that had Christmas lights up already. 

Christmas lights… 

… On the 15th of 

November. 

I know shops have had theirs up for ages. 

But most people I know don’t do their decs until the first week of December. 

At first, I thought that was bonkers. 

Then I realised - 

Christmas signifies hope for a lot of people. 

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How Fast Is YOUR Thinking?  

I really like talking Cars. Motors. Rides. Whips. Whatever you call wanna call em.  

And… I love using motoring metaphors, driving analogies and tales of travelling to help people understand the nature of thought and how it affects their lives.  

Even if you don’t drive, I want you to imagine you have your dream car. What is it?  

Ok, let’s pretend that your shiny new super car is your Mind. 

Try and calibrate how fast your car (mind) is going?  

What is the speed of your thinking right now? 

What does…

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